How to Get Out of a Really Bad Mood (and Avoid Temper Tantrums)

Suddenly, it hit me. I was knocked off my feet by an incredibly bad mood.

As hard as I tried, I couldn’t shake it. I tried to focus on the good things, take deep breaths, and think happy thoughts. None of it worked. I could feel myself spiraling out of control. I wanted to yell. I wanted to run away. I wanted to kick and scream on the floor in a full out temper tantrum.

 Overall feelings of "meh"

Overall feelings of "meh"

I can’t pinpoint what exactly made this bad mood arise. It could have been PMS, or my annoyance of having to do normal adult things, like checking credit reports. Maybe it was frustration at lacking a distinct direction in life or not having a place of my own.

It could have been any number of things. Thankfully, I was able to keep my mouth shut before I blew up at my parents over normal questions like “What are your plans this evening?” and “What are you working on today?”.

I sat in my car for some alone time and called my brother. Sean always has good words of advice during times like this. He was able to help me laugh my way out of this out-of-control mood. As I laughed about my mood, I realized that there was quite a lot that I was keeping inside. I'm very good at keeping my frustration all pent up. Occasionally, this results in days like this one.

The plus side of being in a bad mood, is that it can be turned into a good thing. If you are in a really bad mood, you're feeling a really strong emotion. You just need to channel that emotion in a different direction.

Next time you have a really bad day, try one of these suggestions to turn your day around:

Enjoy it

I recently listened to an episode of The Chalene Show called "How to Enjoy Being in a Bad Mood". In the episode, Chalene gives a strong argument for why you should enjoy your bad mood and all that comes with it.

I want to reassure you by telling you that you have permission to have bad days. You have permission to be in a bad mood and to be annoyed. If things are tough, you have permission to be mad, and to be irritated by the situation.

But just as you have permission to feel all of the above, you too must also make a conscious effort to not allow yourself to stay in it.
— Chalene Johnson

Wise words Chalene. Wise words.

Talk it through

This is where a trusted confidant comes in. For the sake of the emotional well-being of those around you, use this sparingly. It's okay to call my brother when I have a bad day (he's required to love me even when I'm grumpy), but it's not okay to call him every day when something goes wrong. This only brings him down with me.

Laugh it off

Watch a comedy or some funny videos! You might even want to keep some funny videos on hand for a quick mood booster. Laughing has so many wonderful benefits for your body.

I have been thoroughly enjoying the BuzzFeedVideo Youtube channel. This video is one of my favorites. You can't go wrong with Disney pick-up lines.


Punch it out

Everyone should own a punching bag! Sometimes when you are mad, you just want to punch something. A punching bag is a healthy way to do this (I don't recommend you go around punching people). It's a great way to relieve stress and frustration. With each punch or kick, you release your negative energy. When you're done, you're exhausted and ready to think about something else.

Run Away

You should never run away from your problems. Instead, you should run to work through your problems. I remember getting a really irritating email one day from work. My manager wanted me to accomplish an impossible task within an impossible deadline. That was enough to cause frustration, but it made matters worse because my manager also included other employees on the email. If I questioned the task, it would make me look bad! If I didn't, the task wouldn't get done in time. The whole situation put me in a really uncomfortable position...

After it was all over, all I wanted to do was run away. So, I went to the gym and ran as fast as I could for as long as possible. Not the most effective way to run, but effective enough to calm me down. I was so tired that I couldn't focus on being upset anymore. I was able to move on and enjoy the rest of the day.

Shake it off

Dancing is my personal favorite way to let off steam. I bought a Wii just so I could play Just Dance games. It takes the focus off your frustration because you are concentrating on the music and the words of the song. Added benefit of Just Dance is that you have to closely watch the moves to follow along. After awhile, you forget all the other things you were thinking about!

If you are going to have a dance off session to get out of your bad mood. You can't go wrong with Taylor Swift.

Have any other great tips for getting out of a bad mood? Or stories about temper tantrums?! Comment below!