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How to Celebrate Your Wins (Even When You’re Feeling Discouraged) | EP 19

Hey friend.

I know that you have big dreams and you are out there, trying to show up, move forward towards your dreams, and make things happen.

And some days, you are on top of the highest mountain, shouting your victories for all the world to hear. Then, the next day (or actually maybe just 10 minutes after the whole top of the mountain moment)… you’re feeling like you just got pushed off the mountain that only minutes ago you had conquered.

When this happens (and it will happen often), it’s so important to have the right mindset and to keep the good and the bad events of your life in perspective. Today, we are going to talk about how to celebrate your wins, even when you are feeling discouraged.

When you take the time to celebrate your wins, you just might find that you haven’t actually tumbled too far down the mountain. Maybe you’ve even found a shortcut or another path that you didn’t see before.

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How this topic came about

I’ve been thinking about this topic a lot lately because I’ve been trying to do all the things (as usual). Because of this, I’ve gotten behind on podcast episodes. When I started this podcast, I set a goal to get out an episode every week and in November I published one interview. That interview was amazing though! It’s with Kwame Christian on how to negotiate and you should listen to it :D

When you don’t hit a goal it’s easy to get disappointed or discouraged. I know I have been! I’ve had thoughts like… “What have I been doing with my time?! Just watching Hallmark Christmas movies?!”

Maybe… but I’ve done other things too! And there is nothing wrong with watching Hallmark Christmas movies ya’ll <3

As soon as you start to have these types of discouraging thoughts, it’s good to take a minute and think about what you have accomplished and celebrate those wins.

For example:

I may have published only one interview for the podcast this month, but I did accomplish a lot of other things.

When you stop to think about what you have accomplished and celebrate your wins, you realize that you have been making progress all along. Now, you can reassess your goals and continue to move forward. Getting out at least one episode a week is still very important to me, so now I can reconfirm this goal and reprioritize my schedule to make this happen.

Here are some tips for how to celebrate your wins, even when you’re feeling discouraged.

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when you are discouraged

It can be really hard to celebrate when bad things happen. It’s typically not the first response in these situations, but everything happens for a reason. What you’re going to do in this stage is figure out what that reason is.

You’re going to do a practice called “Looking for the Lesson and the Gift”. This comes from a book called Happy for No Reason, by Marci Shimoff. This is one of my absolute favorite books and resources for happiness.

Here is what you’ll do:

When something bad happens and you’re feeling discouraged, ask yourself these questions:

  • If there was a lesson here to be learned… what would it be?

  • And if there was a gift in this situation, what would that gift be?

Here’s an example:

Say you went through a breakup. It was not something you wanted to go through and you are pretty upset about it. What’s the lesson and the gift here? Well, maybe the lesson is that you were dating the wrong type of person and the gift is that now you have the freedom to find someone else.

You may not be super happy with the lesson and the gift that you are receiving in that moment, but the important thing is that you can identify a lesson and a gift in your situation.

Another example:

Since I launched my album “Music & Lyrics” back in August, I’ve been trying all kinds of promotional activities to sell more albums. Sometimes, I’ll have the greatest idea ever and immediately sell some CDs. Sometimes, I’ll have the greatest idea ever and not have a single sale. This rollercoaster can be really frustrating! But when something doesn’t work out, there is a lesson (I need to try something else) and a gift (knowledge of what to do next time).

After you determine your lesson and your gift, you can use the other ideas in this post to celebrate those as wins.

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remember to Celebrate the good too

It’s so easy to take the wins and good things in our life for granted, or even just move on from that excitement too quickly. We get excited for a minute and then say “Great! Now what?”

If something good happens to you today, take the time to be grateful and share your wins. Think of all the wonderful things that happened to you today. Really let it fill you up and be grateful for it in this moment.

When you take the time to appreciate the good and celebrate yourself, you’ll attract more things into your life that you can celebrate and be grateful for.

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Keep a win log

When something great happens, write it down in a notebook, just like you would with a gratitude journal. This will be your win log of all the wonderful things you have accomplished and all of your successes.

Write down the big accomplishes and the small. Write down all of your lessons and gifts too! Remember the day you made the first dollar in your business. Celebrate the fact that you worked out three times this week. Write down any and all wins you can think of.

Your win log will be a great resource when you are feeling discouraged and will give you motivation to reach your goals.

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Share your wins

When something awesome happens, share it! Tell your friends, family, accountability partner, mastermind group, etc. Share your wins with each other and then celebrate all the wins together! It’s even more powerful when you add more people to the celebration.

Make sure that when you are sharing, it’s with someone who will be a positive influence. You want someone who can help you look for the lesson and the gift and then celebrate all of your accomplishments. Then, you want to be able to do the same for them.

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Throw yourself a party!

This is where we really get to the celebration of this topic. This is where you turn on some music, throw your hands up in the air, and celebrate the amazingness of the things you have accomplished. Pamper yourself, treat yourself, and most of all just feel good! Have a DIY spa day, take a nap, read a great book, take a break, or anything else to just celebrate and be present in this moment.

Here is the most important thing you can do to celebrate your wins:

Stand in front of a mirror and look yourself in the eye (in the eye is very important). Say to yourself “You’re doing a great job and I am proud of you.”

Then do some fist pumps in the air and get all giddy about it!

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I hope this has been helpful for you and I want you to take the time to celebrate your wins, even when you are feeling discouraged. Everything happens for a reason and I’m right there with you, looking for the lesson and the gift every day.

We’re doers, we’re dreamers, and we’re out there making things happen. Remember to stay in the moment and be grateful for all of your wins.

I believe in you. You got this!

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Master the Art of Negotiation and Find Confidence in Conflict with Kwame Christian | EP 18

Do you have a hard time saying no, for fear that you will lose relationships?

Do you have a hard time asking for the things you want?

Does the thought of conflict (of any kind!) make you want to run and hide?

Then this episode is for you!

I’ll be interviewing an expert in conflict and negotiation, who will teach us how to get what we want, while also protecting our time and relationships. He will give us practical tips and examples for how we can be empowered by difficult conversations, instead of afraid of them.

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Kwame Christian

Today on the podcast, I’m interviewing Kwame Christian, a business lawyer, negotiation and conflict expert, and founder and Director of the American Negotiation Institute.

He is the host of the popular Negotiate Anything podcast, which has been downloaded over 350,000 times! He also has a TEDx talk called Finding Confidence in Conflict, which was viewed 24,000 times in less than 24 hours. 

In other words… Kwame is legit.

His latest accomplishment is a brand new book, called "Nobody Will Play With Me: How To Use Compassionate Curiosity to Find Confidence in Conflict”. This book is now available on Amazon and it is so good. I’m reading it right now and it has so many practical examples, backed by research, of his framework called Compassionate Curiosity.

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Why this topic is SO important

Kwame knows his stuff you guys and today he’s going to share that knowledge with us as we talk about leaning into difficult conversations and the inspiration behind his book.

I know I always say “I’m so excited for this interview today!” And, as we will talk about in this interview, I am easily excitable. However, this interview with Kwame has so much practical advice that is seriously going to change your life and I am truly excited to share this with you!

If you listen to this interview and apply what Kwame has to say, you will see an improvement in your own confidence, the way your peers respect you, your ability to get what you want, and the depth of your relationships.

I know this for a fact because I have been using it myself. I’ve been leaning into conflict more, putting myself through rejection therapy, and seeing my confidence grow every day. As Kwame says, "The best things in life often lie on the other side of a difficult conversation. “

And for you my podcast listeners, I want you to be brave. I want to give you all the tools you need in your emotional toolbox to go after all the things you want in life. I know you have big dreams and today’s interview is going to help you get there.

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In today's episode, we talk about:

  • The “Compassionate Curiosity” framework

  • How to say “no” (the no sandwich technique!)

  • When to use humor in negotiations

  • How to put yourself through “rejection therapy”

  • How to negotiate, even if you are easily excitable (like me!)

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Buy Kwame’s book!

Kwame’s book "Nobody Will Play With Me: How To Use Compassionate Curiosity to Find Confidence in Conflict” is now available on Amazon!!

If you like what you heard in this episode, you need to buy this book. Prepare to be a seriously skilled negotiator and communicator. Just read this short snippit from the Amazon page:

“The powerful Compassionate Curiosity Framework is designed to guide you through all of your difficult conversations, at work and a home. You’ll know exactly what to say, how to say it, and when to say it in order to maximize persuasion while minimizing the risk of destructive dialogue.”

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The Seasons of Love - "Autumn" Song and Story with Kayley Nell | EP 17

It’s that time of year when the temperature drops and we can finally pull out our favorite sweaters and order pumpkin spice lattes!

And just as the leaves and the seasons change, so do the seasons of love.

Today’s episode is a song and story interview with an amazingly talented singer/songwriter who will share with us why the season of “Autumn” is so special in our lives and in love :)

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Kayley Nell

Kayley has been singing since she was about 5 years old. She has the home videos to prove it!

She began writing silly songs in elementary school for her friends during recess and learned to play guitar in high school, bringing all her skills together to be the amazing songwriter and performer that she is today.

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I met Kayley in college at a few different songwriting events and we reconnected after school when I saw her post multiple photos dressed as a Disney princess.

I just had to ask her “What is it that you do?!?!”.

After finding out that she was a singing princess at birthday parties, I knew that we were destined to be best friends. So naturally, I invited her to tea and the rest is history.

Kayley is about as Positively Delighted as you can get (and so is her music!!). I was so excited to get to interview her about her song “Autumn” and about her songwriting journey.


You can listen to “Autumn” on her latest album “Texas to Tennessee”.

 
 
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update on kayley!!

Since this interview (which was recorded earlier this spring), Kayley has fearlessly pursued her dream of becoming a songwriter. In August, she had the opportunity to join the set of the Pickler and Ben Show in Nashville, but… she had to move to Nashville and start working THE NEXT WEEK.

Well… SHE DID IT!! I’m so incredibly proud of her for picking up her entire life and figuring it out. Within days, she found a place to live, drove out to Tennessee, and started working. Literally one week she was living in Texas and the next she was playing open mic at the famous Bluebird Cafe in Nashville.

Talk about making dreams come true!! <3 <3 <3

Kayley playing at the famous Bluebird Cafe in Nashville!

Kayley playing at the famous Bluebird Cafe in Nashville!

Kayley’s new job is on the set of the show Pickler and Ben with Kellie Pickler!

Kayley’s new job is on the set of the show Pickler and Ben with Kellie Pickler!

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In today's episode, we talk about:

  • Reality vs fantasy when it comes to love

  • Protecting yourself from heartbreak, while still keeping an open heart

  • The nostalgic feelings of first love

  • Kayley’s new album “Texas to Tennessee” and the inspiration behind the songs

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Listen to more of Kayley’s music!

Kayley’s album “Texas to Tennessee” is absolutely amazing. I have it in my car and listen to it over and over and over and over again. It features “Autumn”, plus other songs mentioned in the episode such as “Bless Your Heart” and “Alterations”.

Buy your own copy of the album below!!

 
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Thank you so much for listening to this episode of The Positively Delighted Show! If you like the show and you’ve been learning a lot from the content, I would love if you could go to iTunes, subscribe to the show, and leave a review. You would be my favorite person ever! Thank you so much again and I hope you have a Positively Delighted day. See you in the next episode <3

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