Thank you so much everyone for tuning in to the first ever episode of The Positively Delighted Show! I am so happy that you are here. In this first episode, I wanted to share with you my personal journey to the Positively Delighted mindset, my hopes for you with this podcast, and what you can expect from future episodes.
First off, let me introduce myself. My name is Kelsey and at the time of this recording, I am 24 years old. I have been a singer/songwriter for over 10 years and I am VERY passionate about my interests, which include studying personal growth, traveling to new places, and smiling. Because smiling is my favorite.
I know this sounds super corny, but for me it’s really true. Because for many years during my childhood, smiling was not something I wanted to do. In fact, it was the last thing I wanted to do. And my search for happiness and personal growth came out of a desire to improve the love and confidence I had for myself.
Story behind the smile
I remember sitting at the dentist’s office when I was 8 and hearing him say that I was missing two adult teeth and someday I would need dental implants. I don’t really know how much I comprehended of what that would mean...
I certainly didn’t know that it would take 13 years, 5 dentists, 3 surgeries, and thousands and thousands of dollars to fix something that seemed so simple.
I also remember two years later when I went to a different dentist to have my last two baby teeth removed. I knew what was waiting for me then. I knew what was on the other end of that appointment. A big toothless grin that I would have to look at for the next few years.
Then came the awkward teenage years
Those preteen years were definitely not my most confident, but at least you expect those to be awkward anyways. The best thing that have happened during this time was that my parents decided that we would sell everything and move into an RV full-time to travel. Though I was a moody preteen and didn’t quite appreciate this cool opportunity at the time, but being roadschooled meant that I wouldn’t have to go to school everyday and see other kids, so I was definitely on board for that.
For the first few years of traveling, I really tried to keep to myself and not leave the RV. When I did have to leave the RV, I tried my hardest not to open my mouth or show my face.
One movie changed my whole perspective
Then, everything changed when I was 12 and I saw the movie The Secret. I admit that I didn’t fully understand how the law of attraction worked at the time. As I tried to manifest that my missing teeth would suddenly appear. This did not happen, BUT! Within a year I received my first fake teeth when I got braces and I was able to smile and feel good about it for the first time in years.
Watching The Secret sparked a passion in me for learning about personal growth and the power of my own thoughts. Over the years, I was able to create a positive mindset and improve my self-confidence. Our travel lifestyle made me brave and my new smile made me feel strong.
Yet, every few months or years, I would have some dental appliance change and have to take my fake teeth out. It felt like I was back at the beginning again. Everything about it felt wrong. I couldn’t talk normally. I couldn’t sing. Singing is how I best express myself and I know that is why my parents put so much time and money into the best dental appliances dentistry could create.
Battling with self-confidence as an adult
When I was 21, I finally had my dental implant surgery. All of dentists and appliances and surgeries led up to this point. As much as I wanted to have the surgery, I was terrified. Terrified of the surgery itself, but more so of the recovery period. Having to live my adult life with the same toothless grin, even temporarily while I healed, was not a fun thought. I knew it would be about three months before I was recovered enough to have my teeth put back in.
What would my boyfriend think when he looked at me? What would my friends say? How would I feel when I looked in the mirror? I had worked so hard to create this happy, confident, and successful life for myself in college. I didn’t want the people around me to see this version of myself and my past that I tried so hard to hide.
Obviously, I survived and everything was fine. I didn’t lose any friends or relationships over looking like a chipmunk the next few weeks. When the swelling went down, I still didn’t lose any friends. Though I still did talk funny and had to take a break from performing. I finished the semester of school just like any other. When the time came, I got my final dental crowns and life moved on.
It’s been almost 4 years since my implant surgery and I don’t think I’ve ever smiled so much. I worked really hard for this smile and I plan to use it as much as possible.
Dealing with guilt
Many times during this journey, I’ve thought “Other people have gone through the same experience or worse and didn’t let it bother them. I shouldn’t let it bother me.” But it did. It did bother me. Because my smile was important to me. The way I felt about myself was important to me and my smile was a representation of myself that I wanted to display to the world.
If I had denied myself those uncomfortable feelings, I wouldn’t have gone on this search of the personal growth that has led me to the positive mindset that I have today. And a positive mindset is so important. Because you can’t always control the events that happen to you, but you can control your reaction and you can choose what to do next.
What I hope you learn from this podcast
This is what I want to give to you with Positively Delighted. I want to give you the emotional tools to overcome any obstacles that may come your way. I want us to be friends with our negative thoughts, so we can figure out what they are trying to tell us. I want to give you a positive mindset that will empower you to follow your greatest dreams and the habits to achieve them.
To do this, I have lined up some interviews with incredible people that have been teachers in my own life that I feel have powerful messages to share. As music is a huge passion of mine, I will also be sharing song and story episodes, featuring music that teaches important life lessons, whether that be my own original music or songs from other musicians whose music fits the Positively Delighted message.
I will forever be on a journey of personal growth because I know that I can always be better. I hope you will join in on this journey with me, so we can all be the best that we can be.
If you are ready to get started, please subscribe to the podcast and I head over to Episode 2 for our first interview :)